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“Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.”
~ Erica Jong
Good day folks. We are always told we can be whatever we want to be; we can do whatever we set our mind to do. But really, is that the most important thing? I beg to differ. For me, the foremost important thing is to know yourself first. And the best way to know something is to ask questions, lots of questions.
1. What do you really want to achieve?
Life is short. Too short to do everything that we ever wanted. We have limited time and there is not a single damn thing we can do about it. Set your goal, be specific. The key to answer this question is really to find your passion. What is your passion? Do you want to be a musician, olympic medalist, or simply mastering five languages? Discover your passion and pursue it.
2. Should you change yourself?
Take a look at yourself, take a look at your daily activities, your habits. Do you think your habit, your job and environment will bring you closer to what do you want to achieve? Human is creature of habit. We will be comfortable at what we do everyday. If your habit doesn’t bring you closer to your goal, maybe its time to change it and pick up better habit.
3. What is the positive side about this event?
One key to happiness is to ALWAYS look at positive side of things. You will be amazed how wonderful this principle will work for you. Take rain for example, people who planned to go to the beach will be disappointed at the rainy day, but farmers will be struck with happiness. Remember that there are always two side of a coin. Your choice dictates your point of view. People who always look at the good side tends to have happier life.
4. Are you hanging out with the right people?
We human are vulnerable to peer pressure. If majority of your friends smokes, you will be pressured to smoke with them. This is just a fact of life. Sure, you might think that your resolve is strong, but you aren’t doing yourself any favor if you hang out with the wrong crowd. Ditch your bad “friends” and look for better ones that will support you instead of drag you down with them.
5. Have you done enough to improve myself?
Have you, or is there something more you want to do? People have this innate habit to linger and be content at status quo, but deep down, they want change. If you feel you aren’t doing yourself a favor by watching the serial drama on television, or reading those cheap novels, maybe you should not do it in the first place.
6. Are you happy with who you are today?
This is a tricky question. Everybody wants to be happy. But according to the principle that “There is always room for improvement” we should never be happy with who we are today. The answer depends on you. Do you favor growth or decay?
7. Are you satisfied with your sex appeal?
Why do I ask you this? Because human have been conditioned by millions of years of evolution to relate their self-worth to their sex appeal. Pretty girls will be naturally more confident that their not-so-pretty counterpart. Rich men will be more confident than the poor men. If you feel you have not done enough exercise to stay in shape, maybe its time to hit the gym or stop eating the junk food. Trust me, your self-worth will increase exponentially when you work on your sex appeal.
8. How much do you want to have?
I suppose in this case there is no such things on having things too much or too little, but it’s more on how badly you really need it. Remember that just like our physique, our mental also have a capacity. That is why you can concentrate better, feel better, and have more focus in a clean environment. Imagine a room where it is filled with stuffed toys, food packages, dirty plates, and overloaded rubbish bin; I really don’t think you can concentrate doing anything there, can’t you?
Having more than you need sometimes can slow you down. The key is to balance your needs and your desires.
9. What motivates you the most?
Is it fun? Or is it fear of failure? I write this blog because I love teaching and sharing knowledge with others. That is my primary blog writing motivation. I do martial arts because I love improving myself while learning to defend myself.
What makes you do the things you do?
10. What do you want to do now?
After answering that simple 9 questions, you should have a somewhat clear idea and sense of direction. Now remember that you can do whatever you set your mind to do. Where there is a will, there is a way.
Write down your goal on a piece of paper and stick it where you can see everyday. I stick mine on my iMac screen and the wall beside my desk. It will help you to remember where do you want to go.
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